I've been trying so hard to change. Or as Matt says to "evolve" since he doesn't believe people change. In one of my classes we're supposed to figure out what's stopping us from being successful. I, personally, have always had problems with being social. I've never been able to make small talk - people have even thought I was stuck up because of it. Reality is that I simply don't know what to say. So I made it my goal to be more social. It's really uncomfortable for me. I much prefer to be at home reading or writing or spending time with Sammy. Or, being outside. Any time with nature is wonderful.
But either way, I'm trying. When people have pictures of their kids at work, I try to make comments about them, just small talk. Honestly though, I'm not always interested. Why is that? I've never been interested in other peoples kids. Everyone else is insanely interested in Sammy and I have no idea why. They're constantly asking how he's doing and what he's doing. The only kids I really care about are family, or kids that I babysat and actually know.
I'm really not entirely anti-social. I like discussing things, debating even. I like talking about things that matter. I especially like talking to Matty. We have similar personalities, but they're different enough that I can always get a new perspective after talking to him. And, my closest friends and I will talk about things that matter. But it's so hard to find people that I just click with like that that we can talk about things that are really important. Maybe it's in my own definition of important.
I don't think it's important to talk about kids all of the time. However, it could be the only thing I have in common with a lot of people. Growing up in a different area than the majority of the people I work with leaves me with an entirely different perspective on life. I think, also, I don't like talking about kids because I don't think it's right for everybody to have so many rules regarding how you raise your child. There are certain things that I believe are right. Other things, I don't think make a huge difference. Sometimes I wish kids would just be off limits. As long as parents are truly trying their hardest I don't think they should be persecuted for it.
Which reminds me, I heard last week that there are these parents who are being charged in regards to their child. Their child was sick and the parents, instead of bringing their child to the doctor, prayed. They felt that by asking God to heal their child that it was the best thing for their child. Personally, I believe that the parents thought that they were doing the best thing for the child. They were doing what they believed was right. Unfortunately, the child died. He/she had diabetes. And now the parents are being charged, I believe for murder, maybe neglect. I don't think that's right. I understand that it would have been easy for a doctor to find out what was wrong and help that child to live, but I don't think the parents really wanted their child to die. This is one of the topics that I am alone with. There aren't many others that feel the way I do. Most think the parents deserve to be charged. I don't think it's our place to charge them.
Anyways, I'm starting to notice that I start writing about one thing, and stop on a completely different topic. Maybe I need to write more. Or write more honestly. That's when I find out what I'm really feeling, and, what's really bothering me.
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I feel the same way about small talk Kristin. I hate all that pretentious crap that we say and mostly don't mean. Steve tells me to, "Lighten up" and "Be friendly" grrr..still working on that stuff. I say, lets skip all the blah blah blah and get to the important stuff.
Now, I do love talking about kids. As teachers we would get together regularly and retell all the funny stuff that happened and just ROAR!! I really miss kids...just not teaching.
As for the parents...there's a story too sad for words. No winners, only the little one who beat us all to heaven.
I pretty much agree with you on the case of the parents praying for their child. It's all in our culture. We have so many different cultures here in the U.S. that it's hard to say which one should be considered the law. In another culture, they might not trust conventional modern day medicine. It might be a taboo to use medicine to heal, so they just pray and believe that the prayer will be the best healing measure. I think it's very sad that the child died, but who's to say that he wouldn't have died even if he was in the hospital...?
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